Day After the Fourth

Kayla went on a weekend trip with some friends and Miles stayed home. They said they are going to try to be more independent. Miles went to a bar because he said he's bored without Kayla. I don't feel good about it, but maybe it will work out for the best. I hope so.

Our Fourth of July

Mike was celebrating his first year of sobriety. I was so proud and happy for him, I had to give him a little cake to mark the occasion. Everyone applauded him. He's come so far since last year, when I was actually fearing for his life. His daughters were there, Lynzi on his left, and Aja behind him on his left.

Miles and Kayla seemed to have worked some things out, at least temporarily. I was so happy to see them holding hands and cuddling.

Here are some pictures of the fireworks display that Miles did for us. He's getting really good!

Above, Dylan is playing with a sparkler. He was having so much fun!

Above, Miles waves this one around, making a really special effect.

Here's a shot of Miles' audience. The kids thought the show was a little loud, but they still loved it!

And these last two shots show again what a great show Miles put on. We had such a good time!

Mike and Sarah were here together, and looking suspiciously like they are a couple again. They both told me that before they do anything permanent, they will have counseling, so I hope they do follow through on it. They were doing a lot of hinting, and at one point, Kayla congratulated Mike. I'm not sure if it was for his one year of sobriety or for being back with Sarah. Also there were Mick and Michele, friends of Miles & Kayla that I really like, and Dave and Sue, Michele's parents. Sarah's Aunt Terry and her husband were there, so I had some people my own age. And of course, the grandkids, Aja, Miles, and Lynzi. It was a perfect 4th of July for our family!

Is she going to turn Dylan against me?

Kayla came in and told me I should have told her when my bathroom gets so bad, she would clean it for me. I told her I thought something was wrong with the toilet, that it might be leaking, and she said, no, there's urine on the floor, maybe Dylan has been missing the toilet. She said she's too embarassed to have the housekeeper clean it. I said I would do it, but she said, no, I couldn't get on my hands and knees to clean it. So I said, okay. She said, well, don't get - and and I said, I don't know what else to say. So she left the room.

Right after that, Dylan came to me and told me not to be mean to his mom. I asked him why he thought I was mean to her, and he told me she told him I was. I don't know what to do!

And So It Begins

I was getting out of the shower and I heard Kayla screaming at Miles. She said she wants to be "Kayla" not "Miles' wife." She said, "don't you think I could get my f***ing degree without your help? Miles said, "it's not like that, honey." Then she was yelling at Miles for not having his driver's license. (He has epilepsy and has been approved by the doctor for driving, but he's been afraid to do it, because his first seizure was when he was driving a golf cart and lost control of it.) Kayla says she doesn't want to teach him, so he needs to man up and get someone else to teach him. I know Carol would teach him - there's any number of people who would. Carol says he needs to learn to drive so he can take the car away from her. Since she wants to do everything on her own, let her get a car on her own. Kayla also yelled at Miles that she wants to see her family more than once a year. He said, well, do it. Her family won't come to see her, that's not Miles' fault.

I'm hiding in my room but I need to vent here so I won't say anything out there. No wonder she's been so horrible to live with, she's been wanting to be free. Sarah had breakfast with her yesterday and tried to tell her what a mistake she'll be making, but Kayla wouldn't listen. I think she's made up her mind. It's going to be awful.

Good News, Bad News, and ?

The good news is, my son will be celebrating a one-year anniversary. He took his last drink a year ago 4th of July, when he truly hit rock-bottom. Also, he's been smoke-free for about 3 months. Now it looks like he and his ex-wife may reconcile. (I'm not sure that's good news, because she married the guy she had cheated on my son with, divorced him, all in less than a year.) But they both say they will get counseling before they remarry.

The bad news is my other son is having problems in his marriage. I think his wife wants to leave him. Something happened on Sunday; I don't know what, but my son told me not to worry. (Hah - I think he knows me better than that.) It's going to be especially hard, since I live with them.

Oh, and my daughter is finishing up college. She has one more year to go, but she feels guilty because it's taken her so long, having had to stop and work to support herself before she could continue. She's always had a bit of an inferiority complex - I wonder who she got that from.

This 4th of July, we'll all be together. I guess that's the best news.

God Bless Our Dysfunctional Family.
the boomer formerly known as dydrmLinda